boundaries for engaging with this site

(WIP, adding more as I go)

This is a site for Black people/people of African descent who are Black. If you are non-Black & have found yourself here, please disengage from this site. If you are resourced, you can donate some $ to help me and my community survive-but that does not give you access to this blog if you are a non-Black donor. Thank you. CA: $cobbkiana, VM: @KSCOBB

AGAIN, if you are non-Black and you donate $, this site is still not for you.

Note: Unless you name yourself in an email or comment, we will probably only know each other anonymously, so we're operating on a spiritual honor system here. Take care of yourself and me, energetically, by acting with complete integrity in the space, and I will do the same for myself and for you.

|Holding each other accountable|

Here on this site, we will not perpetrate the following:

-ableism, anti-Blackness, cisheteronormativity, childism, classism, colorism, elitism, euro beauty/desirability standards, fatphobia, misogyny, transphobia, transmisogynoir, and so on. We will, of course talk about these things to describe the horrors we encounter, just not participate in them. I'm sure this list will grow.

If you find anything in my writing or messages that uphold those issues, please hold me accountable and call me in. If your comment or message perpetrates the following, I will call you in. Let us help each other & be helped.

|Time & Space|

I ask for ample time to respond to your messages. My memory is rough, at best, & my energy fluctuates a ton as well. As someone who sometimes struggles to communicate with spoken/written language, I also give myself extra processing time in order to articulate as well as I can. I will definitely get back to you but I can’t promise a specific timeframe for doing that. I appreciate ur patience in advance!

|Compassionate Conflict|

If you disagree with something I write and decide to comment or email about it, please do so with care. We might not know each other, but we can practice community values together by considering each other's perspectives, conflicting to understand, and finding truth together. This does not mean that I am good at conflicting or articulating, cuz I CERTAINLY have issues there. But I promise to try my hardest to be considerate and thoughtful in talking to you and I ask for the same. Thank you <3

If you choose to disagree with me or comment on a post without care, in any way that perpetrates the "isms" and "don'ts" above, OR in a way that is abusive to me and my community, I will either ignore your message, delete your comment (if it will harm my people), or light you up with my words if I feel like a part of you needs to d*e.